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On memoir.

I haven’t been writing much this year—trying to change that lately, but barely willing to commit to even Camp NaNoWriMo and its flexible goal-setting. I’ve been reading a lot: some fiction; a lot of non-fiction, mostly books. I’ve been keeping a notebook of excerpts and quotes, as I read. I’ve been taking a lot in. I’ve been utilizing the heck out of my new-as-of-this-year library card. I’ve saved over $500 so far by using my local library! (The checkout receipt keeps a running total.) I just started Agatha Christie’s An Autobiography, and it occurs to me that what I’ve wanted to read lately is memoirs, and books about writers and writing. (Light the Dark and Women Writers at Work come to mind.)

I’ve come back to Mary Karr’s The Art of Memoir—I bought when it came out in 2016, but set it aside. I knew I’d want to read it, but didn’t feel ready when I started—and I semi-failed her pop quiz: “Don’t write about people you hate… Ditto: don’t write about a divorce you’re going through.” [sad trombone] Since the divorce was still very much a part of my conscious day-to-day living, I didn’t see how I couldn’t not write about it.

And now I wonder, will I write about my divorce, or my ex… or other persons closely affiliated with both? Indirectly, I’m sure I will. I hardly see how it can be avoided. But write about it directly? Probably not. I can sum up my reasoning with a quote from Pride and Prejudice (emphasis mine):

Lady Catherine de Bourgh: “I take no leave of you, Miss Bennett. I send no compliments to your mother, you deserve no such attention.”

It’s a lot better than it was, but even still, that subject wastes too much of my processing power. It/he/THEY deserve NO attention at all.

I’m thinking a lot about what my hangups are, in terms of writing. The act of storytelling is something that takes place continuously for me—in my head, relating events to myself, out loud, relating things to others—and I know writing is something I crave to be doing. Yet it’s not getting done, certainly not regularly—lately not at all. During the first year of “crisis”, I was journaling every day, pages and pages of sifting through emotions and events, trying to figure it all out. Now, I still write pages of text, but it’s more sporadic—things have moved beyond that emotional maelstrom, and largely it’s recounting events and things that seem significant. Processing. Always processing.

Maybe I’m overcomplicating things. Maybe all I need is to think of everything, fiction and non-fiction, in terms of telling someone a story. That’s all it is, after all… telling a story. And hoping to be clear, concise, and entertaining. Entertaining, like this spinning space shuttle… maybe that’s just me.

April 5, 2018 Leave a Comment
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Imperfection

I’m not looking for somebody
With some superhuman gifts
Some superhero
Some fairytale bliss
Just something I can turn to
Somebody I can kiss
I want something just like this
— “Something Just Like This”, The Chainsmokers & Coldplay

I’ve been divorced two years today. (Yay?) I’ve had lots of time to contemplate what I actually want, both in my life, and in a future spouse. (Not to say that I have all the answers. But I suppose I have more than I did two years ago.)

And what I’ve realized I want is not perfection. There is no Prince Charming, no Mr. Right. (As much as I’d wish otherwise, there is no Tuxedo Kamen.) I just want someone whose imperfections mesh reasonably well with my own. Someone creative, constant and true. Someone honest. (Setting the bar low.)

Who are you, sir? I would like to meet for coffee, very soon….

February 4, 2018
Filed Under: Musings

Preparing to be.

“All this time I was writing, writing no matter what else I was doing, no matter what I thought I was doing, in fact … I realize now that all that time a part of me was getting ready to be an artist. That my mind was working even when I didn’t know it, and didn’t care if it was working or not. It is my firm belief that all our lives we are preparing to be somebody or something, even if we don’t do it consciously. And the time comes one morning when you wake up and find that you have become irrevocably what you were preparing all this time to be. Lord, that could be a sticky moment, if you had been doing the wrong things, something against your grain.”
— Katherine Anne Porter

(from Porter’s interview with The Paris Review, found in Women Writers at Work.)

January 26, 2018 Leave a Comment
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Order, chaos.

I was chatting with my mother (an artist) and mentioned an article I read about creativity, by Austin Kleon. (Mom: “Oh, the Steal Like an Artist guy!”) I suspected she wouldn’t care for his book or his approach, and was delighted to discover the opposite—she doesn’t agree with everything, but praised his work, and rereads it every so often, always discovering new gems. (I do the same thing, but I find her statement more validating, since she is a Real Artist. LOL)

We discussed keeping an intentionally messy studio, and how ideas can emerge out of the chaos and juxtaposition. I have a collection of imagery, torn from magazines and other things (originally for collage projects), which became a box of inspiring randomness. I dip into it from time to time, usually looking for one thing, finding something else—often years after depositing it. She keeps a similar file, for her artwork. We were amused to find we have the same process (genetics at work?)

We also agree—as the post later states—that tools and implements need to be organized. I’ve seen her frustrated, searching for a particular tube of paint; similarly, I’m irritated when a tool in my jewelry workshop goes missing, or when my mentor’s shop is particularly unkempt. (Which is often, of late, but he swears he’s cleaning up. Uh-huh.)

It’s an interesting dichotomy. Don’t waste time finding your tools, to execute the idea… but do “waste” time finding the idea.

January 20, 2018 Leave a Comment
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Friday (walking) five

I don’t know if The Friday Five is still a thing*, but it’s Friday, I saw five notable things on my walk** today, and I love bullet lists, so:

  • Tiny specks of birds against big poofy clouds
  • Spiky seed pods clinging to stark January branches
  • Random ornamental boulders***
  • A vista of the Rogue Valley I was previously unaware of
  • A particularly scraggly old oak tree, padded with velvety moss

*It is! But it’s gloriously diversified into all sorts of separate Friday Fives. This is the closest analog to what I remember posting 10-12 years ago.†

**I just noticed the last three posts are about walks. I swear I do more than just take walks. (Note to self: diversify post subject matter.)

***Random because they were in that weird strip of semi-landscape-able dirt between the sidewalk and the street. I don’t understand the purpose of that strip.

†……did I actually admit that out loud? Have I really not had a personal blog in a decade? Good grief.

PS: Hi, I’m an internet dinosaur. 🦖

January 19, 2018 Leave a Comment
Filed Under: Nattering Tagged With: Friday five

Fresh air.

As mentioned last post, I’m fond of walking outdoors. Usually this is somewhat suburban, but once in a while I’m in a beautiful place, enjoying nature. I did this for years, before my divorce, trying to calm myself, quell inner turmoil, and have a quiet moment alone. These days, the “moment alone” isn’t a problem—the cat is a great companion, but not much of a conversationalist—but I still enjoy walking outside, airing out my brain, and getting away from the screen. (The big screen, anyway. The little screen sings to me, if prodded correctly.)

All of this was a set habit, long before I read more recently that demons hate fresh air, but the point is a good one, and worth sharing. When I feel stuck, a walk helps. Even if the solution doesn’t present itself mid-walk—it usually does—I feel better for the fresh air.

January 17, 2018 Leave a Comment
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Winter rosettes

Sedums in winter

I saw these sweet wine-colored sedums in a neighbor’s yard, while on a walk this afternoon. I’m a bit of a succulent nut—you do not know this yet, dear reader, but you soon shall—and I’m having fun incorporating them into my landscaping efforts. (My indoor collection I refer to as my succulent army.)

A few years back, I took regular walks through a preserved wetland near my office in Mt. Shasta, at all times of year. I watched the seasons change, the shifting colors of the landscape, and how even a snowless winter is beautiful in its own way. I find myself doing the same thing in my new location, watching the area change over the seasons. One yard is full of color, even in winter—especially in winter—the absence of foliage reveals lively stems and branches.

I love aspects of every season, but winter is particularly fascinating. Not all of my outdoor plants have survived the cold-wet-cold-wet cycle we’ve had lately, but it’s interesting to see what’s thriving through the winter, and what, having died back, is already starting to regrow. Which brings me back to these lovely sedums, a carpet of vivid rosettes in a season normally lacking in color. Maybe the starkness of winter makes the colors more striking, when they appear against the silver skies of January. Stubborn scraps of life, poking through the decaying vestiges of last year’s splendor….

January 15, 2018 Leave a Comment
Filed Under: Musings, Snaps

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